Ruined Orgasms VS Minimized Orgasms.

I believe that the Internet needs more informative articles on Tease & Denial… Particularly when it comes to explaining the difference between a “Ruined Orgasm” and a “Minimized Orgasm”.

Some websites and forums define them as the same thing… Although they’re two completely different types of experiences, they’re obviously along the same line. But I will agree that these sensations can often blend together, creating a grey area where a man isn’t sure what the hell a woman just did to him… But it felt incredible!

A girl gets her man close to the edge,
then uses only a fingertip or two...

The classic, basic method is for these types of orgasms is when a girl gets her man close to the edge, then uses only a fingertip or two, swirling around the underside of the cock, right underneath the head. It’s frustratingly maddening, and it takes so long to cum this way that men generally don’t have the patience or discipline to do it themselves… Just enough stimulation to get the cum to slowly start oozing out, but avoiding any fast, heavy pumping that’s associated with a Full Orgasm.

Any dedicated woman can learn this simple technique to hold her honey at the brink of ejaculation. What happens then, is up to her. She can deny him from spurting altogether, or she can minimize his orgasm. Either way, it keeps him horny and agreeable for sex and/or more training.

But is that a Minimized Orgasm? Or a Ruined One?

I think that a Ruined Orgasm by definition, is the lack of physical sensations, without muscle contractions. A Full Orgasm is just that, full blown in both force and muscle contractions. So therefore, I feel that a Minimized Orgasm must fall somewhere in between a Full Orgasm and a Ruined Orgasm… Of course on the whole Orgasm Spectrum, a Minimized Orgasm would definitely be much closer to a Ruined Orgasm than a Full Orgasm…

With a Minimized Orgasm, there may be a few muscle
contractions, and the cum will spurt and shoot just a bit.

I tend to think that with a Minimized Orgasm, there may be a few muscle contractions, and the cum will spurt and shoot just a bit, and it’ll sometimes only be part of the load… (repeat this technique to experience achive the Slow Drain effect).

To me, a Ruined Orgasm tends to have pretty much the full volume of a regular orgasm, but stimulation is stopped immediately as the point of no return is reached, meaning all the fluids come out, and the cock gets no relief. Also with a Ruined Orgasm, the penis becomes more useless as a sex toy... With a Minimized Orgasm, the cock will often remain hard.

As I think back to some of the Minimized/Ruined Orgasms that my girlfriend has performed on me, sometimes I can accurately state that it was either a Ruined Orgasm or a Minimized Orgasm… But many of these experiences fall into an undefinable grey area, somewhere in between… Which is probably what causes the whole confusion between “Ruined Orgasms” and “Minimized Orgasms” in the first place.

Releasing Cum for the First Time This Year...

Two and a half weeks without cumming makes for a wicked makeout session in the shower. Kissing her while massaging her back, legs, thighs, and everywhere in between, I avoided her nipples, but teased around her breasts, brushing them only occasionally.

After getting permission to kiss her butt cheeks, I got behind her on my knees to kiss each one. She took the opportunity to squeeze and tease my stiff cock with her ankles, playfully rubbing it as the water cascaded down. I was already slippery and wet, and it felt great combined with the soapy water. I thanked her for teasing me, and reminded her how much I enjoy being teased. She replied that she enjoyed being teased.

Went to bed early, but she was staying up. She asked "Would be OK to wake you up in the middle of the night for…." I replied “Anything you want!”. I always en encourage her to take advantage of the cock or tongue anytime she feels like it, and she didn’t disappoint. At 3 am, she climbed into bed, and immediately started cock teasing with her fingers. It became stiff but remained pointing down in my sports underwear.

We started grinding and rubbing, and I begged to lick her pussy. She shoved it right in my face, and slid up and down. I could feel my cock throbbing and twitching. She took my erection inside of her, and held a good plateau for the better part of an hour before climaxing. She was going to give me a release, but I pleaded for her to not to. She instantly stopped moving, and I clenched my muscles. Nothing happened for a few seconds until a few streams of sperm slowly oozed out in a perfect minimized/ruined orgasm. She thought it was really hot to watch me struggle to hold back the majority of my orgasm... “I could feel it pulsing!" She said.

Girl on Top... Still Wearing Her Sexy Outfit

My girl has been wanting to model some of her naughty new bedroom attire… Instructing me to go and start the shower, I was all clean and ready for her when she joined...

Squishing her breasts up against my chest as the warm water cascaded down our bodies, she would occasionally give my cock a slight brush with her elbow or forearm… Took the tips of her fingers, and gently squeezed my scrotum once every few minutes. Even my ballsack was firm and full with anticipation. “I don’t want to tease you too much… I want to let my outfit do the rest.”

She asked me to give her a few minutes, and disappeared into the bedroom. I was treated to a lady in shiny purple lingerie, with teasing, kissable skin peeking out everywhere.


Usually, our sex sessions begin with me on top, in a missionary-like position - Except it's just rubbing cock-to-clit with no initial penetration . Tonight, she took the girl on top position from the get go. She kept her outfit on, simply sliding the crotch to the side so she could rub her pussy on my cock. She gradually inserted the penis into her pussy, just the head at first, slowly but surely taking the whole thing inside of her.

She came while I edged 3 or 4 times. She was getting too tired to ride, so I flipped her over for some missionary action… Haven’t done that in months… I've been trained and conditioned not to thrust, but to lay still and rock with her movements. To be on top of her and have full control of the speed, rate, and intensity... Something so natural, yet it felt so alien!

And gives something else to ponder in the realm of male orgasm denial... I originally heard that with Girl-on-top, it was difficult for a man to control his ejaculate... I may just out of practice from not being on top, but I found that with full control, I had to focus harder not to cum... Women tend to enjoy slow, sensual thrusts, and that's what I've learned to savor.... Being left to their own pace, men have a tenancy to go too fast, often requiring a break to cool down before continuing...

Loving Tease & Denial...

Enjoying male Orgasm Denial certainly doesn’t mean there won't be any sex… Quite the opposite. The biggest advantage for a girl to practice Tease & Denial is that her man is ready for sex anytime she requests it. I love getting instantly hard the second I kiss her neck or thigh. I enjoy the way that my cock steadily leaks precum, constantly reminded about the teasing when I feel it dripping down the inside of my leg.

A man being teased and denied orgasmic release will have an insatiable appetite for pussy… A girl can take advantage of this state of mind, and enjoy being licked for hours on end! And if the cock is properly confined before the session starts, the man will experience the frustration of constantly to become erect. It will enable him to perform tirelessly, while his mistress enjoys endless orgasms, and becomes completely satisfied. If she feels like it, she could release his cock and/or some semen. But if she’s feeling tired, worn out, or wants to continue the tease, she can leave her man all horny and achy for the rest of the night.

Dogs are house-trained, which makes them better pets. When males are trained to hold their cum, they become amazing pets, willing to please and perform all kinds of neat tricks.

Cum Denial Conquest Continues...

More than two weeks without ejaculating… She was willing to let me cum when we had sex five days ago, but I decided to hold it, preferring to curl up beside her, and go to sleep all horny and aching. So even though we’re barely into the New Year, the horny cock and balls between my legs feel full and ready.

As for the specifics of what counts as an orgasm, a drop or two merely proves that the edge has been reached. All orgasms must happen upon her request, with her permission only. Even a trained male may have an accident or two per year, which may be unavoidable, but anytime the load spills over, it counts as an orgasm, ruined or not. Nocturnal emissions won’t count, but my mistress will be informed of all wet dreams so she can giggle and take satisfaction that her teasing torment is effectively causing her man to subconsciously ejaculate at the thought of her...

Teased for 30 Seconds...

“Have you seen my new bra?”

Girls, don’t ever underestimate the value of giving your man a quick tease right as you’re leaving…

“You haven’t seen my new bra, have you?” She asked casually as she was heading out the door. She undid her winter coat, and lifted up her sweater and shirt to reveal a little black bra with red lace trim, complete with little red hearts. I got her permission to kiss above and below, and gently appreciated the soft warm skin of her side. It was a 30 second tease, but it got me hard, and has kept me horny and leaking for more than 30 minutes…

Sex Goal for the Year...

A particularly devious tease I've been pondering is being limited to 12 orgasms per year... Not for the faint of heart, it's certainly not something that a man can be trained to do overnight. The challenge has been posted before, but after several years of practicing orgasm denial, it's something that I'm willing to attempt. Perhaps the most encouraging reason is the fact that I managed to last 30 days without orgasm this year....

My balls were so sore and swollen that they hurt when I coughed. Yet, I still craved teasing! Even though after every tease, my nuts hurt even more than before, the act of being teased and aroused is a bit of a “relief” in itself. I get excited at the sight and touch of her underwear. Her warm, naked ass teasing me to sleep every night.

I was the one who got her into sleeping naked. Most teasing women prefer their males to sleep naked, nestled up to their pantied asses or thong-separated cheeks… Our bedtime rules state that only one of us must be naked. It used to be me, but she’s taken over that role, which is a tease in itself.

The last time I had an opportunity to expel my semen, I had begged her not to let me cum… A classic case of “be careful what you wish for”, because it was a full month to the day since she took ahold of my cock and told me to cum for her...

My testicles hadn’t pumped out a load in so long that I knew it was going to hurt if she ever made me cum again… To stay completely denied, the swollen ballsack would surely hurt even more. A ruined orgasm is probably a more favorable option, though the least painful form of “relief” would be to have some of my load slowly milked or drained, maybe with some fingertip teasing.

After fondling, caressing and squeezing her breasts and shoving them in my face, I went down on her, focusing gently on her clit. She came with only a few dozen strokes of my tongue, not requiring any penetration. After she finished her cute little screams, I began to ponder my fate… Would my ever-present erection be left untended, to ache and throb for the rest of the night? Or would she make me come so hard that my balls would hurt?

She pulled out our thick rubber penis tube that also has a ring that wraps securely around the testicles. The tube can only really be worn I’m super hard… So a whole month without an orgasm was a perfect opportunity to use this rubber toy. As she took my cock in her hands, she slowly stroked the top of my cock until I came, letting go as the flow of cum oozed and pumped itself out of my sack.

In the days that followed the release, I have regularly woken up with solid, morning wood, sometimes so stiff that I had to go outside for a morning pee.

So could I last longer than a month? Definitely. But I seem to think that 2-3 weeks seems to be the ideal period of time to be teased and denied… But not knowing just when you’ll be allowed to spill over is the most thrilling part! 30 days without cumming… Incredibly difficult to do it once, let alone a dozen consecutive times... I’ll need to put together a bunch of these stretches of denial if I’m ever going to be limited to 12 cummies per year...